Monday, December 20, 2010

Have you ever really stopped to listen? Sometimes I wonder if everyone only hears what they want to hear. Honestly, I think it takes lots of patience and training to become a good listener. But then again, what is a good listener? Someone who will sit and stare intently at your face as you talk about who knows what...ocassionally interjecting a "mmm" or "yeah" to make it seem like they are really engaged?

Gaaaaah. Sometimes I get so frustrated. Not only with other people, about 99% who don't care about a thing I have to say. And with myself, because I believe they don't care. So I don't talk. I don't say what is on my mind. And then I get mad at others for not listening. It's just the recurring circle.

3 comments:

  1. I know just how you feel! Sometimes that "Mm" is just like - ARE YOU REALLY EVEN LISTENING TO ME?????!!!

    *Hugs* I know how it is to feel alone too! I've been feeling like that for the last little bit - especially at night.

    For what it's worth, I care a lot about what you have to say. I love to listen to people. I sometimes get caught in a weird talking shriek because I'm sometimes with people who don't prefer to talk at all, so I end up just rambling on and on, and then have to shut myself up to really listen to someone else, but it's not cause I don't WANT to listen, it's because I am just dumb... I really do love to hear all about my friends lives, thoughts, feelings, school, trips, work, families, you name it! :-) So, if you ever need to talk, you know I'm here! <3
    And Jesus is there too!!! <3 It doesn't matter where you are, or what you are doing, you can always talk to Him!!!
    Love ya!

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  2. I can really relate.
    Sometimes it's hard to believe that anyone even really cares enough to listen.
    And then sometimes, there are those, you don't really "listen" persay, and instead try to FIX things for you.
    There ARE times where I'd like help in fixing things, but unless I ask for that help, all I want is for people to LISTEN and try to UNDERSTAND.

    Aw, hon, I'm so sorry you're all low. If you EVER need a listening ear, just call me up! Really! I'm always here, willing and READY to listen to you. *hugs*

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  3. Yeah, I'm sorry too, that you're feeling low. That's especially frustrating, I think, around Christmastime. It's the time of year that you'd MOST like to be happy and excited - at least I would - and so it sure is hard when you're just not feeling that way... :( I'm sowwy sweets...

    And I'm here, too, if you ever want a listening ear. I'm shy by nature, so sometimes I think I'm BETTER at listening than I am at TALKING. ? Maybe. And I'd love to *truly* listen to ANYTHING you have to say, hon!

    Have a merry Christmas, and I definitely think that *next year* we should make another *longer* Skype date! :) And then you can talk all you want... 'K? I love you. And just remember that your BEST friend will ALWAYS be there, waiting for you to spill your guts to Him, and He ALWAYS listens. ♥

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