One of the things that annoys me most about Taylor Swift's music is that the only songs that must be good enough for the radio stations to play over and over and over again are her songs about a boy who likes a girl other than herself and why he should like her instead.
Lord, I never want to be like that.
Completely unrelated to the above thoughts, one of my life questions is this: How often do we "choose" a mate or spouse or even just dating partner based on ethnicity or cultural back round? The concept of similar attraction says that according to sociological study, most likely people will be attracted to and likely end up with those who are similar to them. In white, Christian, middle-class Colorado Springs this whole aspect of relationships (not even just romantic ones, even friendships) doesn't really cross one's mind because there is no variety. But living on the most diverse [Christian] college campus in the country, this question really interests me! I can probably count on my two hands how many couples I know of who are not of the same ethnicity.
What is it about being more similar to someone than not that is such a huge driving factor in our relationships? Do we simply not like to have friends who are different from us? Is it too uncomfortable, too hard? Would I have just as much fun hanging out with someone who wasn't white than someone who is? Would I ever be able to relate in any way to someone who grew up in the Bronx? What different methods would we have to use to get to know someone of a different back round from ourselves?
Or am I just thinking about it too much?
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